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Adoption: A Neurosis By Design?

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  Extract From Support Not Separation Website Against Forced Adoptions Oct 5th 2022 The UK is now a growing anti-family-anti-stability nation it seems? Out of 3500 Adoptions 90% were estimated to be “Forced Adoptions” (non consensual ones) . However let’s look at how these UK State approved ways create a socially approved : “Neurosis by design” This is not a party political matter since both big UK Parties are involved. They have been, since 2000, with Tony Blair’s Labour Prime Ministers plan to create bonuses for local authorities to increase Adoptions .. After all, his dad was Adopted, and successful in life , so it must be the case Adoption rescues everyone else , surely ? Selves split off from family selves, whether that means from each other or from oneself “internally” (A self split-off from itself too) will set up many unmet needs and identity problems in most Adoptees and birth family. However it seems, some Adoptees become politicians like Tory UK Michael Gove M....

The First Summary Reportback Of The Global Anonymous Adoptee Survey 2022

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Adoptee Anon 2022 Global Survey Stops At 320 - Curator Report

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The survey is now closed at 320 because the trends are not altering and the growing numbers do not make it’s voices somehow louder. Those trends have remained constant. Three are shown below and they are serious matters that the over-promotional world of “ Adoption is so wonderful” needs to see and hear too. Notably that hearing, must be done in cultures that dream-on that Adoption is a good alternative form of child care. The survey is not showing that by ratio of pain to gain .. It’s showing abuses and damages. It’s showing kids (now adults) were at high risk of damages INSIDE Adoption. It’s showing Adoption looks like a form: “Socialised Neuroses by Design” too. It emerges more in Adult life. It’s no wonder the survey was picking up sizeable trends towards “self destruction” in some Adoptees too .. More of that will be seen in future report-backs by free PDF’s given , after the comment boxes are assigned numbers of comments, and screened for accidental identifiers whi...

The Global Anonymous Adoptee Survey Goes Past 300

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  The Global Anon Adoptee 2022 Survey is currently at 310 (27 days) has been a “bottom-up” , “Citizen-Survey”, done by adult Adoptees for adult Adoptees. It’s been aided across internet groups. It seems a larger : “We the adoptee people” theme is speaking… Democracy sometimes trumps habits of social repression. There’s plenty of versions of social repression of Adoptees voices of pain from what many have said on many groups. The groups that have aided the survey include Facebook, Twitter, Tik Tok, and assorted others like Blogger and Medium.com. The survey work is now entering a longer concentrated report-back stage. That is complicated by the sheer volume of comments made which are filled in after the bar chart quantifiers in the survey and those need to be checked for containing any accidental identifiers. Any made by accident will be filtered out. The survey pressed everyone explicitly on many comment box questions not to put any identifiers. The survey is anony...

The Global Anonymous, Adoptee Survey 2022 Passes 200

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  The Global Anonymous, Adoptee Survey 2022 (link here)  passed 200 by Sunday UK time on 4th September. Each day it puts on more numbers and currently it stands at 209 at the time of writing .. The survey has multiple aims and many are about empowerment.  A key one is to enable a greater capacity by Adoptees on Twitter and Facebook, Tik Tok and in other parts of the web to realise they all have to start measuring by stats-capture their own voices of experience. How so ? Why should they do that ?  Are their voices not enough in those places ? Well, the answer seems to be , yes and no ... Yes, for discussions and sharing fellowship, but the limits of the web becomes seen when some Adoptees wanting social changes are mostly reactive back in a web-cornered way to the problems of Adoption, they are often either suffering from, and not realizing that by more pro-active efforts ; changes to systems are possible. Changes in fact that could help them or future Adoptees....

The Post Adoption Counselling Ofsted Dance of Misdirection

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  A Statutory Instrument 2005 underlining the 2013 Adoption Statutory Guidance fore-worded by Ed Timpson MP., places NO legal prohibitions on adults Adoptees seeking for instance private therapy for trauma inside Adoption. NONE at all . "Counselling" ( not  therapy ) as core duties, are only mentioned in prescribed forms. Read the Statutes! .. One mention of therapeutic services for Adoptive children in another 2005 government document is the only time  the Statutes veer from using counselling as a term and that is because some very disturbed children who are adopted, need specialized services .  Ofsted have created an interpretative problem in their online Guidance about post adoption counselling and that is because counselling in its core duties is indeed statutorily prescribed as a number of tasks and needs to be "inspected" once counsellors and other Adoption support staff set up as "Agencies" Therapy though  is never mentioned in Stat...

July 2021 Adoptee Revocation Survey UK Report

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  From 18th May 2021 up until the date of writing this report on the 16th July 2021,  two of us as UK adult adoptees designed and ran a survey for UK Adult Adoptees. By July it had accrued 95 adult adoptee respondents from areas of Facebook groups. Only UK Adult Adoptees "adopted in the UK" were permitted to do the survey  What we wanted to test was whether or not UK Adult Adoptees wanted to revoke their adoptions if that was legally eased in the UK. 51 % said they wanted revocation. We tested other matters too like experience for adult adoptees of needing therapy and whether they had been child abused inside adoption...We did this because some UK adoptees had told us they were pained by adoption though there were others who had "good" Adoptions...     The figures below are shocking for us to see and speak for themselves . 42 % of the respondents stated they were child abused inside Adoption experience. These shock figures have never before been generated or eve...

The Misery Of Adoption With No Adult Annulment Process Worldwide

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10th Sept 2020  . There are many pained adoptees all across Facebook and some "birth mothers" who feel lost without children they gave up or were pressured to give up . What is clear is the pain revolves and revolves  in various adoptee groups and no solutions come easily from the States in parts of the US or elsewhere in the World of adoption where  kids that grow up cannot as Adults even revoke (Annul) abusive adoptions  they experienced. .... This identity-falsifying institution Of Adoption remains perversly sacrosanct . No one knows why ..... Is it the 11th Commandment ?  "Thou Shalt Remain Adopted!" .. This paperwork invention clearly works for some Adoptees but not for others at all .. Some are subject to emotional abuses and narcissistic adopters and sexual abuses after being adopted .. They cannot exactly take cases for a lack of duty of care can they as kids they have already lost the supreme security of birth family ..? They might have been able to leg...

Adult Adoption Annulment - LGBTQ U.S. People Who Adopted Each Other Cannot Marry Each Other

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    The Right To Be Oneself ? 8th Sept 2020 In a learned document - a Florida Law Review (Keefe) Adult Adoptee Annulment does not become possible for LGBTQ folk who have resorted  to adoption (for relationship security, estate and will reasons)  prior to same sex marriage laws brought into the US at 2015 . Why  this problem? Because  US judges are resistant to annul adoptions ,   but also resistant at the same time to allow marriages to occur for those  LGBTQ "adoptees" who adopted each other,   since the law would mean they are permitting incest!  Read The Review... From the "Introduction".. : "unless homosexual partners are able to dissolve their adoptive relationship, they will be prohibited from exercising their constitutional right to marry because of state prohibitions on marriage between parents and their children. " Adoption  you see  is used to create a "parent and child relationship" in law and that is why some Stat...

Adoptee Sexual Abuses - Dying While Alive Revealed

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Decoding The Sexual Abuses 8th September 2020    This picture I just had to draw as an Adoptee-Artist - I had to face it .. And,  the awful feelings too right across all my life. Why?  WITNESS that is why. True witness for a child lost long ago because of Adoption to an infertile couple .    In the end my Adoptive father's infertility became my sexual destruction His wife abused me sexually and finally that killed off senses that I could trust any other "body".   Not even my own ... The Death-life I lived was strange and fully endowed with nothingness .. Erect as Iron ..Made of nothing and no feelings.....Occasionally spurting out a bit of leftover life ....That was me . That was my adoptive dad ! That became me too !  That became many men I knew too in the working classes of Birmingham of factory/iron workers with dead looks for life ..They were not adopted though - so I was more like super-iron .. Super dead-alive..Super unfeeling.. The ir...

Adult Adoptee Adoption Annulment Global Human Rights

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Adult Adoptee Identity Rights Issues 7th Sept 2020    It's so overdue in an age of Identity Rights with the brave forward guard of Trans-people, quite rightly identifying with their internal world gender of their owned Self-idea of who they are,  for some Adult Adoptees not to be allowed to throw off the artificial identity given to them by the State or others through Adoption Court Orders..... Many Adult Adoptees feel falsely transitioned into an identity NOT THEIRS TOO .. They need to feel themselves and have it reflected in law properly.  However there is no Adult Adoption Annulment mechanism in laws in the UK or US and only barely in Australia for Adult Adoptees to rescind their status of "Adopted" to that of "Not Adopted"  or "birth identity re-assumed"  or some other suitable  "Adoption discharged"  label.  Why are these Adoption laws so unmodernised and still stuck believing law can dominate by paperwork people's Self-identity?  ...